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Rather than fighting for every woman’s right to feel beautiful, I would like to see the return of a kind of feminism that tells women and girls everywhere that maybe it’s all right not to be pretty and perfectly well behaved. That maybe women who are plain, or large, or old, or differently abled, or who simply don’t give a damn what they look like because they’re too busy saving the world or rearranging their sock drawer, have as much right to take up space as anyone else.
I think if we want to take care of the next generation of girls we should reassure them that power, strength and character are more important than beauty and always will be, and that even if they aren’t thin and pretty, they are still worthy of respect. That feeling is the birthright of men everywhere. It’s about time we claimed it for ourselves.
I was standing in the bathroom with my 8-year-old niece and she saw me adjusting my top and said, completely serious and curious,
“Why do you want to look good?”
it took me aback for a moment.
“Sometimes because I want to. Sometimes because I feel like I should.”
“That’s silly. See, I have sap all over my hands?” she showed me her hands, “and see I don’t even care! Because it doesn’t matter. Sap happens.”
[Animated gif of Frank Tovey smearing shaving cream across his mouth]
Oh worried girl, you don’t have to shave it.
You don’t owe prettiness to anyone. Not to your boyfriend/spouse/partner, not to your co-workers, especially not to random men on the street. You don’t owe it to your mother, you don’t owe it to your children, you don’t owe it to civilization in general. Prettiness is not a rent you pay for occupying a space marked ‘female’.
the first step towards confidence is not being afraid to be ugly
once you get over the fear of being unattractive and stop equating beauty with other good things in life (friends, love, happiness) it’s a lot easier to love yourself unconditionally
your job is not to sit around and be pretty and easy on everyone else’s eyes
your job is to do whatever the fuck you want and look however the fuck you want while doing it
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Where would a woman have to come from to have that much body hair naturally?
Not trying to sound like an asshole, this photo is lovely, I am just genuinely curious.Hi there! Thanks for the compliment. :) I was born in the US and am a pretty vast mixture of different ethnicities, mostly European. The biggest chunk (1/4) and the heritage I feel the most connected to is Italian. My grandfather’s side of the family comes from Bari and Calabria in Southern Italy. :) Honestly, through my Body Hair Aware project, I have learned that (as I suspected) male pattern body hair on women is far more common than most people know because most of the women who have it hide and/or remove it with regularity and rarely discuss it. You would be amazed by the number of women (from many different backgrounds and ethnicities) who have messaged me who also have a great deal of body hair - even chest hair. It’s something humanity has rejected for so long, many people don’t even know it exists. I find this and the psychology behind it vastly intriguing.
you see this?
it’s called a razor
if you’re a girl, USE IT
your hairy legs and armpits aren’t cute okay
you’re not helping out for woman’s rights or anything
YOU’RE JUST MAKING YOURSELF LOOK NASTY
Women have been socialized to believe that they must remove hair for a number of reasons, primarily the following:
- hair is historically and Biblically associated with power; we as a patriarchal culture are obsessed with keeping hair on men (facial hair, Hair Club for Men, hair plugs, whatever) and keeping it off women. You say hair on women is nasty; why is it only hair on women? Women and men have the same pubic hair. We all grow it out of our follicles for the same reason. Why is it only gross on women?
- women’s bodies have been considered the property of men since the dawn of time, and therefore we have been held to a standard of beauty and attractiveness that is not determined by us but is instead determined by something called the male gaze, which is erases all sexualities and genders other than cisgender heterosexual men and assumes that women are performing for it.
- childlike women are considered less “threatening” and more “feminine” because they are naive, quiet, and rely on ~*adult men*~ to take care of them.
- there is a fallacy about pubic hair that it is dirty. It is not dirty. In fact, it’s there to keep your genitals cleaner. Pubic hair and armpit hair are also there to spread your pheromones around and make it easier for you to attract a mate.
- all mammals have hair. We’re mammals.
- No one else’s body is your business. Ever. You want to shave? Go ahead! That’s totally your prerogative and if you’re more comfortable shaving, feel free. But given that pubic hair isn’t innately dirty, there’s no reason for anyone to remove it if they don’t want to.
You’re not sending out some edgy, hardcore message here. You’re just reinforcing what our culture wants you to reinforce. Before you pick up that razor again, think about why you want to shave. Is it just because our culture told you to? Why’d they tell you to? What’s the point?
Do what makes you comfortable and what makes you happy, and let others do the same.
Not to mention that at least in the US, shaving legs and underarms has been a thing for less than a century.
And was popularized by razor and depilatory companies. Who, of course, just wanted to double their sales by targeting women as well as men. Their marketing campaigns started in women’s magazines in 1915.
Here’s the first advertisement they ran trying to sell razors by telling women their underarm hair was “objectionable”. And it worked.
Advertising and commercialism once again enforcing arbitrary restrictions on women’s bodies~
Yes I am reblogging this again. Because of what the above person added. It’s so interesting to learn how customs come about in a culture.
Fuck. Yes. Fuck yes.
Oh god fuck yes.
Can we all just promise that if we are ever in charge of children (or if we are already in charge of children) that we will do everything in our power to make sure they have high self esteems, to give the the tools to protect themselves from society, to give them body integrity, and teach them that their boundaries deserve to be respected and to respect others boundaries.
Because I don’t ever want any child to go through what we’ve been put through ever again.
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I’m tired of “all bodies are beautiful” and “all women are beautiful” when beauty is inexorably tied with “sexually viable”.
Talk to me when “beautiful” is a synonym for: breathing, alive, creative, intelligent, attempts things, talented, tries and fails and tries again, strong, SURVIVED!, this chick fucking MADE IT, don’t fuck with her.
Talk to me when old women, disabled and differently abled women, trans women, large fat women, women with bellies that hang to their knees, poor women, filthy whores, indiscriminate sluts, cat ladies, bag ladies, the ones no one wants ladies - talk to me when those women are beautiful too - and not just those who titillate you and make you want to post them on your blog.
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